"Seeing" Others

To "see" our children is a crucial building block in their development; neurologically, psychologically and emotionally. 
We are social beings, and thrive by having meaningful connections with others. 
During the early childhood years a child’s brain needs a safe adult to be observing them and responding in attunement to their needs. An effort to see the child for who they are, and an ability to respond appropriately, and in a timely manner.
To really see a child though -or any other person- requires a level of introspection. A recognition that, usually, we see the world through our own needs first. 
The energy and effort used to put ourselves in the background, for a moment, while we listen and see a child or another, is another way to use our attention. To relate to someone attentively, is to care. Attention is a form of love.
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We’ve interviewed Arianna Orozco, a team member who is a new mother and this is what she has to share:

“How can I truly see someone else?
Since becoming a mom I have been sitting with that question. There is a tremendous aim to be present and show up for what my baby really needs. 
Interestingly, I have found that in order to see her I must learn to truly see myself first, without judgment. Here are three questions that have helped me do so:

• Am I truly seeing her or a reflection of my fears? — fear often plays a role in how we see the world and others around us. 
• Am I truly seeing her or a reflection of an expectation I have? (About her, about our relationship, about me around her…?)
• Am I truly seeing her or am I listening to outer noise? Like (un)solicited advice, opinions, cultural beliefs, etc. 

Dismantling these questions can be a powerful tool to get rid of the blur that often gets in the way of seeing others. I have given the example with my baby, but I believe this exercise is valid with anyone we would like to truly see.”

What is your experience when you try to see your child or any other person?